Are you “dissatisfied”?

Dissatisfied: Not content or happy with something.

I came to a realization the other day and for me it was huge. I have spent a lifetime getting really good at noticing when things are out of place. It is almost like a game. I see dishes unwashed, the hose needs to be rolled up, the thermostat is set too low, fans are running. I can see it all.

That is not unusual. Many of you may be as good as or better than me!

What  I realized was I was incrementally getting more angry at each item I found! That was bad. It wouldn’t take but a few minutes or hours until I was actually getting irritated at everything. Soon everyone was “messing up”!

In his book called “The Science of Getting Rich” Wallace Wattles says this:

“The moment you permit your mind to dwell with dissatisfaction upon things as

they are, you begin to lose ground. You fix attention upon the common, the

ordinary, the poor, and the squalid and mean; and your mind takes the form of

these things. Then you will transmit these forms or mental images to the

Formless, and the common, the poor, the squalid, and mean will come to you.”

Guess what, the more I concentrated on the out of place items, the more I concentrated on the “squalid and the mean” the more they showed up in all that I saw.

What I learned is this:

  1. It is not that I noticed things were out of place but that I JUDGED them to be wrong, bad, and purposely incorrect. If I could connect it to a person or imagine a particular person did it, I could generate ill will and anger at that person. It generated “I am right, you are wrong” feelings.
  2. It is addictive. The more I see the more I look for new items. Soon everything is wrong!
  3. I make this up in my head and I can change it.

My cure:

  1. Notice my thinking! When I hear myself chastising someone in my head I notice what I am thinking. I catch myself and this is my new game!
  2. I snap my plastic event bracelet against my wrist! It is important to do something physical to connect the mental to the physical world. You can clap, stomp your foot, pinch your side; but do something.
  3. Correct that thought with a positive idea. Everything can be turned around. Be grateful. Sometimes I just remind myself that I have eyes that can see differences. I am grateful I can notice things, or I am sending love to someone who can fix the challenge. Don’t move until you fix the thought.

“There is no greater sin than desire, No greater curse than discontent, No greater misfortune than wanting something for oneself. Therefore he who knows that enough is enough will always have enough.” – Lao Tzu

 

Affirm:    I am satisfied with my surroundings